Jurists could probably invent a thousand different situations in which a cold logic and a secular perspective could dictate that spouses “need” a pre-marital agreement. But according to God`s plan, what the spouse “takes” does not matter, because everything belongs entirely to both spouses once they are married. If one spouse feels that he cannot give everything freely to the other, I would suggest, frankly, humbly, that they must rethink seriously and with the prayer to go through the vows of marriage. A premarital agreement (called “pre-nup” informally) is a legal contract between a husband and wife. It spells in frightening details to who owns what property, who has what legal rights and what happens exactly when the couple is separated or divorced. But is a binding and enforceable legal contract between man and woman really in line with God`s plan for Christian marriage? If you find yourself in a situation where your fiancé`s family asks for a pre-nup, start with a deep breath and think about the love and worry his family has for him. Approach the request with kindness and say you will discuss it with your fiancé and pray about it. Often, men and women can exert great family pressure on them to ask for a pre-Nup – especially if wealth is hereditary – even if it`s not their true desire to have one, so while you`re discussing it with your fiancé, you keep an open mind for his feelings in the matter. Pray assiduously for the decision, both alone and with your fiancé, and if the decision is contrary to the agreement, think about the best way to address his family, whether your fiancé should go home alone or with you. The kind of marital agreement that most of us think of turns marriage into a contract rather than an alliance.
Rather than reaffirming a single Meat Union, it suggests that a man and a woman are rather trading partners who protect their own interests without fully trusting each other. The problem with a marital agreement is that it departs from the biblical view of marriage. My husband and I never had a prenup agreement. In fact, it never occurred to us. Maybe it`s because our two families don`t do it at all. But I heard about it and I had classmates (of another religion) who had to give dowry (to the bride`s family) before they got married. Unlike today`s agreements and contracts, the price of marriage was not intended to protect property or other financial assets, but was merely a means of caring for a woman who might never remarry.